We don’t compete, we empower!

When are people going to learn that their purpose in life, is not a competition?

We all have our own gifts and talents, so there really is no need for us to compete.

When I see my friends flourish, I am genuinely happy for them.

I appreciate the fact that they always keep me on my toes and make me hungry to want more out of life.

Without them even knowing it, they challenge me to set the bar higher for myself each and every year.  They help me see and believe that all things are possible.

It feels so good not to compete against each other! And it feels even better when we work together!


Instead of tearing each other down, we choose to lift each other up.  If we can do this, then so can you.

Stay true to yourself.









Outfit Details:


Bodysuit and Skirt:  Mr Price

Shoes:  The Fix


Boots:  Luscious by Lauren

Dress:  The Closet Sa

Earrings:  Lovisa

Photography done by Radcliffe Roelse and Courtney Roelse from Roelse Events

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Be grateful for what you have because it can be taken away from you in an instant

As parents we can’t always give our children everything.

In my house, money most definitely doesn’t grow on trees.  And at times it’s not always easy to decide what is important and what is not, but the decisions have to be made.

There are many parents out there who are single and don’t receive support from the other parent.  These parents are forced to do things on their own not because they want to but because that is the situation they find themselves in.

There are some household’s where there is only one parent working and in others there are none.  This is the reality we as parents live in today.

We all want what’s best for our children but we can’t always give them everything they want.  It’s hard to admit it but it’s the truth.

That’s why it’s so important to teach our children values.  Things that they can use as guidelines when they get older.

We should teach them not to look down others because just because they don’t have and that having gratitude is everything.

It is so important to be grateful for the things you have because in an instant it can be taken away from you.  So many times things like death, divorce, separation, an accident, a loss of a job, retrenchment etc. can change people’s lives in an instant.  They didn’t ask for it to happen, it just happened.

If I look at my own life, my daughter and I had everything and in an instant all that was taken away.  And not because we asked for it but because of circumstances that was out of our control.

There are so many children out there who’s parents are able to give them everything and because of this they develop a brat mentality.

They look down on others and start calling them out for not having things.  Things don’t make a person but having a good heart does.

Know that just because you don’t have the same things others do doesn’t make you less than a human being.  You are worth more than material things.

Material things don’t define who you are, but the way you treat others will define the person you will become.

Stay true to yourself.








Outfit Details:

Shoes & Bag: Foschini

Shorts & Top:  The Fix

Choker & Sunglasses:  Luscious by Lauren

Jewellery:  Lovisa

Photography done by Radcliffe Roelse and Courtney Roelse From Roelse Events

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Name them and shame them

I am sick and tired of being sick and tired of men leaving comments like this on my page.

Can you believe this comment was made under a status of me checking into gym.

What goes through one’s mind to write such nasty comments on someone else’s page?

And to top it all off we are not even friends.

This boy probably thought I was just going to delete the comment and move on.  Little did he know that I was going to use him as an example of how women are objectified by boys like him.

And I say boys because real men don’t make comments like this.  Only boys do.

We as women are subjected to messages like this on a daily basis.  Some keep quiet and move on and others like me make example’s out of them.

I refuse to be made to feel unworthy!  I am more than worthy!  My worth is not defined by someone else’s perception or opinion of me.

My worth is defined by me and me alone and I will not allow anyone to come on my path and make me feel otherwise.

On a daily basis we as women receive comments like, “you are fat”, “you are ugly”, “you think you are pretty but you are not” and my all time favourite, “you think you are cool but you are not”.

Why do we allow other people’s opinion’s of us to be greater than our own?

Well, enough is enough.  Today I am standing up and speaking out and I am asking every women who has been objectified and subjected to this kind of behaviour to speak up too.

Name and shame anyone who makes comments like this on your page or on messenger that think’s they can get away with it.

Maybe in this way they will start to keep their opinions to themselves instead of hiding behind their phones and computer screens trying to make others feel unworthy.

Stay true to yourself.


My journey to self discovery

For many years I found myself slipping away.

Each year that went by I felt like I was losing more and more of who I was.

There were many days I would look in the mirror and I wouldn’t recognise the reflection staring back at me.  Slowly but surely, I was becoming a prisoner of my own thoughts.

Each day that went by I saw myself falling into a pit of self destruction and soon realised that if I was in that pit for too long, there would come a day that I wouldn’t be able to get out of it.

I was losing myself, to myself.

You see, when you have lost your self worth, you no longer see your true worth anymore.

You don’t see what other’s see.  All you see is what your mind keeps telling you to see.

I will never forget that day I bought the book called Destiny, stepping into purpose by TD Jakes.  This book changed my life.

It helped me find my true self, my self worth and my destiny.

It gave me a new outlook on life.  It made me hopeful and expectant and it helped me find true happiness within again.

You see, we all go through bad days and even bad years sometimes, but what I’ve learned is that it’s all part of one’s journey to self discovery.

Your greatest strength lies in your greatest struggle.

Hold on, don’t give up because things change and get’s better with time.

Stay true to yourself.






Outfit Details:

Boots & Sunglasses:  Luscious by Lauren

Bodysuit:  Choice Clothing

Earrings & Ring:  Lovisa

Photography done by Radcliffe Roelse & Courtney Roelse from Roelse Events

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You are worth it!

Have you ever allowed someone to make you feel unworthy?

You love him, so no matter what he says or does to you, you keep quiet.

At night when everyone is asleep, you lay there next to him while the tears are streaming down your face.

And in the morning you get up and put on that fake smile just so that you can make it throughout the day.

You pretend in front of the world that you are happy, when in fact deep down inside your soul is crying out for help.

You can’t take the pain inside anymore but you stay anyway.

In your eyes you have suffered enough but you choose comfort over sanity because if you leave what are you going to do and where are you going to go?

Every women deserves a certain amount of respect.

She deserves to be loved,  just like man does.

She deserves to feel like she is worthy.  She deserves to feel like she is good enough.

A women should never be put down, discouraged, disrespected or hit by a man.  A women should also never allow a man to make her feel small or minute.

Every women should be appreciated by the man she loves because guess what, love is a two way street and if you don’t treat her right, why are you still there?

If a man doesn’t treat you right then why are you wasting your time and energy on him?  Leave, there is someone out there who will treat you right.

Stay true to yourself.






Outfit Details:

Shoes:  Legit

Skirt, Bodysuit & Belt:  The Fix

Earrings:  Lovisa

Sunglasses:  Luscious By Lauren

Photography done by Radcliffe Roelse and Courtney Roelse from Roelse Events

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Its all about the base

Hello my Queens,

Summer time in Cape town is always a scorcher.

This means the colour of our skin tends to get darker and more tan.

It is extremely important that we make sure we are still wearing the correct colour foundation.

Nobody wants to look overly tanned because they are wearing a shade that is too dark for their complexion.

The whole point of wearing foundation is for our skin to look more natural.

So Ladies, please do yourselves a favour and go to your nearest beauty store to make sure you are still wearing the correct one.

If you want some more information regarding this, please click on link below:

The Best Foundation of 2018

Stay true to yourself.


Photography done by Radcliffe Roelse and Courtney Roelse of Roelse Events

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My Valentine

Last year was my first Valentines day being separated from my husband.

After being with him for 7 years, it was hard for me to spend days like these on my own.

It was my first Christmas, Valentines day, Mother’s day, Easter and birthday without him.

It was the year of my firsts and somehow I had to find a way to get through it.

2017 was the hardest and longest year of my life but I made the choice to leave so I had to deal with whatever pain and heartache there was attached to it.

It definitely became my year of reflection. A year that truly tested my faith and made me a whole lot stronger than I ever was before.

I’m not going to sit here and say it was easy because it wasn’t. The thing is, people will never truly understand the pain you have to endure until they themselves have been through it.

Going through all of this, made me think of how many men and women there are out there who are alone. Who struggle on days like Valentine’s day.

Many have lost their partners through death, divorce, separation or regret and days like these make it difficult for them to forget.

There is no reason why anyone should be alone.

Valentines day is a day of love. It should be celebrated not only with a partner if you have one but with your children, friends and family too.

Stay true to yourself.


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Outfit Details:

Shoes: Mr Price (Vintage)

Skirt and Bodysuit: The Fix

Choker: Shop Brett Robson

Sunglasses: The Haute Accessory

Photography done by Radcliffe Roelse and Courtney Roelse from Roelse Events

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Stop trying to distract yourself and learn to deal with it!

How many times do we find ourselves in relationships that we know in our hearts we are not ready for?

We jump from one relationship to the next, trying to fill the void in our hearts with something or someone else.

The truth is, in order for us to move on, we need to heal first and healing takes time.

You can’t rush it.

You need to take a break.

Using something or someone to fill that void is merely just a distraction.  It only lasts for a while and eventually you have to deal with it.

Stop distracting yourself.  It’s just a waste of time.  Deal with it!

Stay true to yourself.


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Outfit Details:

Shoes:  Edgars

Bell Pants:  The Closet SA

Belt:  The Fix

Shirt and Choker:  Luscious By Lauren

Sunglasses:  The Haute Accessory

Photography done by Radcliffe Roelse and Courtney Roelse  from Roelse Events
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Let yourself go for who?

How many men and women out there get so comfortable in their relationships that they start to let themselves go?

In the early stages of any relationship we tend to go out more, eat more and drink more.  Then months later we find ourselves laying around on the couch in a comfort zone.

Many of us get so comfortable that we become lazy and stop doing the things we use to do.  When this happens I usually hear the excuse, my partner should love me for who I am and not for the way I look.

Firstly, you are not doing this for him,  you are doing it for yourself.

People can tell me what they like but let’s face it, when you meet a man, he usually doesn’t like you for your personality upfront.  Men are visual beings so your physical appearance is what attracts them to you in the first place.  Not your personality.

Stop letting yourselves go.  You are worth the effort, so don’t stop putting in the effort.

Even though you are in a relationship, it doesn’t mean that there aren’t things that still need to be maintained.

Don’t get too comfortable.

Stay true to yourself.


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Outfit Details:

Sunglasses:  Luscious By Lauren

Pleather Bodysuit:  The Fix

Photography done by Radcliffe Roelse and Courtney Roelse from Roelse Events
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Support local talent! Yasis

Why don’t we support local talent?

Why do we wait for big shows like Idols SA and SA’s got talent to showcase our towns talent when we are more than capable of doing it on our own.

We all see our local talent posting pictures and videos of themselves on social media everyday but yet we ignore them because in our minds they are not important.

We complain that Cape Town doesn’t get recognised for it’s talent but yet we are doing absolutely nothing to support it.

How do we think celebrities like Cassper Nyovest, AKA, Minnie Dlamini and Bonang Matheba succeeded in the industry?  With the help and support of the people in their hometowns of course.

All people did was consistently like and share their photo’s and videos on social media.

The more likes and shares they got the more likeability they got from other people and that lead to more and more exposure for them.

Today they have become some of SA’s biggest stars by people just simply coming together and showing their love and support towards them.  It’s that simple but yet we can’t do it.

How many of us are even aware of the fact that there are many artists out there who are recognised everywhere else in the country except for in their own home town?  It’s sad but so true.

Cape Town is known as the lazy city when it comes to supporting local talent and I think it’s time to change that.

Youngsta CPT put Cape Town back on the map by showing people that Cape Town slang is cool again and people supported that.

He became one of the Mother City’s true gem’s when he brought home the Lyricist of the year award which he won at the 2017 SA Hip Hop Awards.

Like him, there are many hidden talents here in Cape Town and if we don’t help them succeed, they will remain hidden.

I am Candice Lynn Christian Cape Town Motivational/Fashion & Beauty Blogger and I am #ProudlyCPT #AndISupportLocalTalent.  Do you?

Stay true to yourself.


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Outfit Details:

Sunglasses:  The Haute Accessory

Earrings:  Lovisa

T-shirt:  Y?GEN Enterprise

Bell Pants:  The Closet SA

Shoes:  Edgars

Photography done by Radcliffe Roelse and Courtney Roelse from Roelse Events

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