Need a Lift?

Hello my Queens,

If you ever want to give your lashes that ultimate lift, the Revlon Ultimate All-in-one Mascara will do the trick.

I have been using this mascara for months now and I absolutely cannot go anywhere without it.

First I have to speak about the packaging.

It’s different from all the other mascara’s on the market. The shape of the packaging is very bold and unique and I think that Revlon has done a wonderful job by finding a way for it to stand out.

The first thing I noticed upon opening the mascara was how different the bristles were.

The brush itself has a hollow core and the bristles are quite small, which I must admit made me a bit sceptical at first.

To my surprise, those small bristles applied the mascara to my lashes so smoothly without any hassles and without picking up too much product, which normally causes smudging.

It also helped separate my lashes beautifully and gave it so much more volume, length and definition.

Ladies, you will be happy to know that the Revlon Ultimate All-in-one Mascara dries very quickly.

Everyone knows there is nothing worse than redoing your make up just because your mascara smudged, especially when you are in a hurry.

Personally, I think this gives every woman that extra bit of confidence they need when applying their make up.

What I love about this mascara is that it curls my lashes beautifully without having to make use of an eyelash curler. It gives me that extra lift that I need and it gives my lashes new life.

I know that there are many ladies out there who struggle with finding mascara that gives them volume, length, definition and a lift and if this is you the Revlon Ultimate All-in-one Mascara was made just for you.

Stay true to yourself,

CanDchris

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Invisible storms

Some of the toughest storms that we face in life are the ones that no one can see.

Just because we get up every morning, groom ourselves well and go about our daily business with a smile, does not mean we don’t go through any storms in our lives.

Many of us are so good at masking our storms that we smile and fake it just so that other people can’t see our pain.

This is not healthy because it steals our sense of relief.

Opening up and speaking to someone we can trust, gives us that form of release that we need to deal with whatever it is we are going through at the moment. Even just knowing that we are not alone gives us the strength that we need to be able to go on.

So many people assume that how things look on the outside is how we really feel on the inside and that is the furthest thing from the truth.

Stay true to yourself.

CanD

CanD:

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Keep your dreams silent

Have you ever heard the saying, don’t tell everyone your dreams?

Unfortunately, there are some people in this world who cannot stand seeing others making their dreams a reality.

Not everyone is going to be for you in this lifetime, there will always be someone who will be against you. That unfortunately is how life works.

Many of us seem to think that if people have dreams and they make more effort than the average person does in their appearance that they are stuck up and think they are better others.

But that my dear friend is so far from the truth.

Real talk: Do you know that you actually have to invest in yourself in order for you to get more out of yourself? The reality is that people judge you based on your appearance.

They don’t know you but they will base their opinion of you solely on what they see right in front of them. This is a fact.

That is why it is so important to stay true to you. Block out the negative chatter from all the haters and surround yourself with people who give you life and speak positivity into your life. Dress up to show up and allow your passion and ambition to direct your path.

Always stay relevant and make sure you keep shining so that people will always remember you.

People will always talk, so let them. Who cares?

Haters will always hate and many of them will talk bad about you without even really knowing you.

So let me just remind you that destiny chasers don’t live their lives to please others but they live their lives to be of service to others.

If you are a destiny chaser remember to keep quiet, work hard in silence and share your success. Why? Because I believe that success is the best form of revenge.

Remember the less people know the better.

Stay true to yourself.

CanDchris

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Knowledge is power

How many of us still read?

Come on let’s be honest now. I’m not talking about reading on social media; I’m talking about taking time out of our busy schedules to sit down with a book and read.

Do any of us still read to our kids at night before they go to bed or do we just let them watch TV until they fall asleep?

Life as we know it has become so convenient that it has actually made us lazy.

Does anyone actually still go to the library? And no I am not talking about the school children because most of them are forced to be there for research purposes; I am talking about us as adults.

Many of us have become so addicted to technology that when the electricity goes off we become bored and we don’t know what to do with ourselves when in fact there are so many other things we can do without the use of technology.

Reading is so important because it broadens one’s knowledge. It doesn’t limit us to the things we already know.

I have to admit that I am not much of a reader, but I have found that when I am in need of wisdom, reading definitely helps.

I have found that knowledge is indeed power and without it we lack wisdom.

Reading helps us in school, in our spirituality, in our sexuality, in our love lives, when we are hurt etc.

There are so many books out there filled with wisdom, waiting for us to feed on it.

To be honest, I think most of us have actually forgotten how powerful reading is and how much wisdom is actually gained from it.

The Bible says my people shall perish through their lack of knowledge. This doesn’t only refer to us not knowing the Bible but it also refers to us going through life being lazy and not educating ourselves with what’s been given to us.

If we don’t read, we cannot grow and without growth we stay stagnant. Is that really what we want?

Stay true to yourself.

CanDchris

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When it seems that there is no end in sight

Have you ever felt like your entire life is hanging by a thread and at any moment you feel like you are going to break?

Like everything that you have worked so hard for in your life is being taken away from you within a matter of moments by something or someone who is so undeserving of it?

Like your life is about to change and all you can see is the struggle with no end in sight?

No one likes to admit it but it hurts.

Sometimes the enemy hits us so hard that it hurts. For me, the worst part of it is that you have absolutely no control over it. The only control you have is how you are going to handle it.

Are you going to party and drink your problems away or are you going to find ways to influence your life in a positive way?

Personally, when life hits me the hardest I turn to God. I find comfort in reading my Bible and I try to get myself inspirational books to gain more wisdom. I also go to the gym to get the physical release that I need to be able to go on.

Truthfully, when you are being hit in all areas in your life it can make you very weak and that is exactly what the enemy wants to happen.

He wants you to become weak in the flesh. He wants you to feel sorry for yourself and look down on yourself. He wants you to get sick, feel inferior, undeserving and unloved.

All he wants is for you to turn to worldly things instead of turning to God for wisdom.

The further he can draw you away from the Lord the better because then he has more control over you and you no longer pose a threat to him and his kingdom.

When we face hard times it doesn’t happen for nothing. We might not see it now but God is preparing us for something new.

Everything in our lives has purpose and when the enemy sees where God is going to take us he will do anything and everything in his power to stop us from getting to the place we are supposed to be.

God will never give us a cross that’s too heavy for us to carry. He knows our strength more than we do.

Stay true to yourself.

CanDchris

CanDchris:

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Shirt:  Mr Price

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Glasses:  The Haute Accessory

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Embracing change

Why are so many of us afraid of change?

Personally, I think it’s because most of us are scared of the unknown.

None of us know what to expect or what is waiting for us in the future, so we prefer comfort over the unexpected.

In most cases change gets forced upon us.

We try to plan our future ahead of time, but sometimes when the unexpected comes along; it forces us to change our plans to something else.

Many of us forget that our plan might not be God’s plan for us.

We only see what is right in front of us but God sees far beyond that. In order for us to get there, He forces us in a different direction, which makes us very uncomfortable.

Whether we like it or not, change is going to happen.

We just have to learn to accept it and adapt to it as quickly as we can because sobbing about it is not going to change anything.

We have to accept that people will change, that our circumstances will change and that our lives as we know it will never remain the same.

So many people think that change is an opportunity for them to give up on life, but it isn’t.

It’s just another opportunity for God to restore order in our lives again and to create more opportunities for us to grow.

Stay true to yourself.

CanDchris

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More money more problems

Isn’t funny how whenever we have some extra Rands in our pockets we find another place to put it?

And no I don’t mean a savings account, fixed deposit account or even a 32 day account. I mean we turn that extra money we had into more debt that we didn’t have.

When we earn more we tend to spend more.

We start running up our clothing accounts and credit card debt. Social drinkers no longer buy their normal brand of alcohol. No, they buy the more expensive kind because they can afford it now. The smoker’s change their brand of cigarettes from the cheaper brand to the more expensive brand and the list goes on.

But why you ask?

Well nowadays, people are more worried about what other people think of their financial status than anything else.

People compete and measure themselves up against others who are doing well for themselves to make it seem like they are also doing well. They will buy the latest cars and wear the biggest name brands in watches and clothing just because their friends or family members are doing it.

And it doesn’t just stop there. No, it goes much deeper than that but I am sure everyone gets the picture.

The reality is that some people purposefully want to outclass others. It’s like they want to prove to others that they are way better off than you.

It has become more about keeping up with the Joneses than looking after their future.

But just imagine if all of us saved those extra Rands we’ve received over the years, what could we have done with it and where would we have been right now?

So next time we receive that little bit extra, let’s try to put it away so that it can actually grow.

And remember that we were doing just fine without it in the first place.

Stay true to yourself.

CanDchris

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Dating in circles

Have you wondered why some of us keep finding ourselves in the same type of relationship time and time again?

Every now and then, we meet someone and date them, only to find out a couple of months later that they share the same bad qualities of someone we’ve already dated in the past.

It’s like a never ending cycle that puts itself on repeat.

Why does this keep happening, you ask?

Well, the first thing we need to do is look at ourselves. What are we doing wrong that keeps putting us in the same situation all the time?

The outcome of anything in life is based on the choices we make. We cannot blame someone else if we made the choice to be with that person in the first place.

Our problem is, we always try to shift the blame on others when the answer is right in front of us.

The reason why we go through things in life is to learn from it and many of us have to knock our heads a few times before we actually listen.

Most of us make our decisions based on emotion instead of using common sense.

We ignore our instinct and listen to our hearts but forget instincts are there for a reason.

In one of my previous posts I spoke about values and the important role it plays in the decision making process.

If we keep dating people who don’t share the same values as us, we are actually wasting our own time.

The Bible says you cannot be “unequally yoked”, which means you cannot date someone that doesn’t share the same or similar values as you do. You have to be on the same level.

If you have certain values or standards that you live by, you shouldn’t be lowering them because you think you won’t get someone better. There will always be someone better; you just have to wait and be a little more patient.

For example if one of your values is respect and the person you are dating keeps disrespecting you that is a sign, don’t ignore it. If one of your values is honesty and the person keeps lying to you or has a habit of hiding things away from you that is also a warning sign, get out.

Don’t ever go against what you stand for.

A person’s culture also has a lot to do with the way they were raised. Everyone was raised differently, so it’s important to look at these things too. In most cases things that you might deem as normal might not be so normal to the next person.

When choosing a life partner, make sure you look at the person’s character, personality, interests, values, strengths and culture because these are the qualities that make up a human being.

Don’t ever base your decisions on what you see on the outside because in the long run it’s what’s on the inside that really counts.

Stay true to yourself.

CanDchris

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Scared to be lonely

Why are so many of us afraid to be alone?

Does anyone even know the answer to that question?

Many people sleep around looking for love and affection in the wrong places and this stems from being lonely.

But sleeping with someone isn’t going to fill the emptiness you have inside; all it does is make that hole within yourself even bigger.

Some people even make themselves stay in unhealthy and unhappy relationships because of this.

But let’s just get real here, no one can fix a situation if they haven’t looked at the route cause of the problem.

There are so many people who jump from one relationship to the next and end up never addressing the real problem.

Why? Because they feel like if they are with someone they will feel less lonely.

But guess what? The truth is we need to spend more quality time with ourselves.

We need to get to know ourselves again because somewhere along the line we have lost ourselves and we need to take the time out to find ourselves again.

Learn to deal with our problems head on, instead of running away from them and stop trying to find things or people to occupy that space in the meantime because it’s not going to fix the problem.

We need to find a way to become comfortable with ourselves again and to remind ourselves of who we are and what our worth is.

We need to learn to appreciate the time we have by ourselves because when someone else comes along and occupies that space we will wish we took that time out to be on our own.

Stay true to yourself.

CanDchris

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What are your values?

How many of us think of our values first when we make important decisions?

How many of us tend to make decisions that go completely against what we stand for?

Honestly, how many of us can actually remember what our values are?

Having values are of great importance.

It is our ideals and our beliefs.  It defines who we are and what we stand for.  To me, values are the basic guidelines we have set for ourselves to help us make the right decisions.

Today, I would like to ask you, do you know what your values are?

It sounds pretty simple right? But when asked the question do you even know it off by heart or is it something that you actually have to think about?

Our lives have become so busy and are so consumed with other things that we tend to forget about what’s important to us as individuals.

Do yourself a huge favour and think about what your values are, write them down and try to remember them.

This can only help you make better informed decisions in the future.

Stay true to yourself.

CanDchris

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