Separation: My long walk to freedom

For those of you who think marriage is easy, let me tell you it isn’t.

Marriage takes hard work and a lot of sacrifice.

It cannot and will not survive if both partners are not fully invested in it.

Marriage comes with a lot of obstacles. There are things like alcohol and drug abuse, lying, infidelity, verbal, emotional or physical abuse, financial problems, and secrets etc. that can and will destroy your marriage if one or both parties are unhappy.

People need to be honest with themselves and recognise when there are problems in their marriage.  You cannot ignore the signs and remain unhappy when it is clearly there.

If both parties are not willing to make it work, then it’s time to open up your eyes, cut your losses and walk away because you cannot make it work on your own.

Personally, I have realised that you cannot force a marriage to work if it doesn’t.  It only prolongs the inevitable and it ends up making the situation worse especially if there are children involved.

For those of you who didn’t know that I am married, yes I am.

Out of respect for my marriage and my belief that one shouldn’t speak about things until it’s done, I chose to remain silent about this topic and never spoke about it.

There are a select few that know and obviously those who have inboxed me and asked me about it also know.

It’s been a year since our separation and it feels like this divorce is never going to happen.

This year has been a tough one for both me and my daughter but in the midst of the struggle I remained strong.

I believe that everything happens for a reason and that every season has a beginning and an end.

And at this point in my life all I can do is remain calm, have faith and be hopeful that this chapter of my life will soon come to an end.

Stay true to yourself.

The CandyKween

Outfit Details:

Shoes:  Legit

Dress:  TC design

Waist Trainer belt:  Chinese Shop

Jacket:  Legit

Chokers:  Both from Shop Brett Robson

Photography done by Radcliffe Roelse and Courtney Roelse from Roelse Events Photography

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