Have you wondered why some of us keep finding ourselves in the same type of relationship time and time again?
Every now and then, we meet someone and date them, only to find out a couple of months later that they share the same bad qualities of someone we’ve already dated in the past.
It’s like a never ending cycle that puts itself on repeat.
Why does this keep happening, you ask?
Well, the first thing we need to do is look at ourselves. What are we doing wrong that keeps putting us in the same situation all the time?
The outcome of anything in life is based on the choices we make. We cannot blame someone else if we made the choice to be with that person in the first place.
Our problem is, we always try to shift the blame on others when the answer is right in front of us.
The reason why we go through things in life is to learn from it and many of us have to knock our heads a few times before we actually listen.
Most of us make our decisions based on emotion instead of using common sense.
We ignore our instinct and listen to our hearts but forget instincts are there for a reason.
In one of my previous posts I spoke about values and the important role it plays in the decision making process.
If we keep dating people who don’t share the same values as us, we are actually wasting our own time.
The Bible says you cannot be “unequally yoked”, which means you cannot date someone that doesn’t share the same or similar values as you do. You have to be on the same level.
If you have certain values or standards that you live by, you shouldn’t be lowering them because you think you won’t get someone better. There will always be someone better; you just have to wait and be a little more patient.
For example if one of your values is respect and the person you are dating keeps disrespecting you that is a sign, don’t ignore it. If one of your values is honesty and the person keeps lying to you or has a habit of hiding things away from you that is also a warning sign, get out.
Don’t ever go against what you stand for.
A person’s culture also has a lot to do with the way they were raised. Everyone was raised differently, so it’s important to look at these things too. In most cases things that you might deem as normal might not be so normal to the next person.
When choosing a life partner, make sure you look at the person’s character, personality, interests, values, strengths and culture because these are the qualities that make up a human being.
Don’t ever base your decisions on what you see on the outside because in the long run it’s what’s on the inside that really counts.
Stay true to yourself.
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