I wonder how many people there are in this world that are like me. I was raised by my grandparents because both of my parents didn’t play an active role in my life.
There are so many reasons why children grow up without their birth parents and today I will be sharing part of my story with you.
When I was a rebellious teenager, I never understood why my parents didn’t play an active role in my life. I was hurt and I constantly asked myself the question, “Don’t they love me?” I was extremely judgemental and I wasn’t interested in their excuses. All I wanted was the truth. I wanted answers.
For many years I blamed my parents for not being there for me but now that I am an adult I understand it a bit better. I realise that we might not always understand the reasons why people do what they do, we might also pass judgement on them at times because we are human and that’s what we do, but until we walked a day in their shoes we will never truly understand the reasons for their actions.
I understand now that it was in God’s plan and purpose for my life to be raised by my grandparents. God knew that my mother and father love me, but they were still too young and immature to raise a child at that stage in their lives. He knew that they weren’t ready.
Today, I consider myself lucky to have been raised by both my grandparent’s. They planted seeds of greatness in my life and played a very big role in my upbringing. Growing up, they taught me the fundamental things I needed to know in life. They made sure that I knew how to work with a budget and that having an education was the key to success. In my grandparents house, knowing the Lord and having an active church life was extremely important. They always said, “You will reap one day what you sow. So be careful of what you put out there.”
They always say everything happens for a reason and I can honestly say I believe that. God chose my grandparents to be my keepers and they raised me to become the person I am today.
I would like to take this opportunity to thank my grandmother who I call Mamma she is still with us today and my grandfather who I called Dadda who is no longer with us. Thank you so much for being exceptionally good parents to me. I know that sometimes I was a handful and very opinionated but you always saw the best in me. You were very strict at times and that annoyed the hell out of me but I know now that you were just trying to protect me. Now that I am a parent myself I understand that more clearly LOL. Thank you for showing me the way. I love you.
Always remember that no matter who raised you, God was part of the process. He knew why your parents wouldn’t be able to raise you before you were even born. Trust God, He knows what He is doing. He never puts you through things without a reason.
Sometimes we don’t always understand why things happen the way they do, but I believe that there is a plan and a purpose for everything in our lives. You might not figure it out right this second but in time you will and then you will look back like I just did and say Thank you Lord.
Always stay true to yourself.